Men Talking About Their Feelings, And Is It The Real Issue?

So I'm sure most of you have already seen a comic from Sarah Andersen where she pokes fun at fragile masculinity. In it, there's a guy dressed in Roman centurion armour boasting that masculinity is strong and tough. Then a girl dubbed "the slightest threat of femininity" pokes him with a spear and says "it's ok to talk about your feelings". This causes the guy's armour to crack and a look of shock and terror has befallen his face. Now I personally found the comic funny, as it perfectly illustrates all the broflakes I've encountered spreading the good word of feminism across the internet. However, just as I suspected, the broflakes in question took to Twitter to aptly prove the comic's point, with many of them strawmanning Sarah, a couple of them making stupid edits that were just clear MRA whining and projection, and just overall creating a whole mess. Sarah later clarified that she wasn't intending to mock men as a whole, and actually encourages men to talk about their feelings, and it got me to think about whether or not that's the actual problem and if we should even be telling men to do that.

Here's the big question: Should men talk about their feelings? As a counselor, my answer might surprise you, but I don't think men talking about their feelings is the problem, or at the very least, it's not that simple. Why is that? Because they already are. When sexist men ramble about how women are stupid and whiny, or how they call women who wear revealing clothes sluts and whores who deserve to be raped, or incels creating whole bloody manifestos about how "fEmAlEs" are property and that they should be equally distributed amongst virgin men for a chance to score, they're letting you know how they feel. Men love nothing more than to insert unnecessary commentary onto anything that has nothing to do with them simply because they think they know more about it than those pesky womz. If the goal is to have men be open with their feelings, then I'd say mission accomplished. 

Saying that men should talk about their feelings just simplifies the issues and completely misses the actual problems that we should be discussing. Men not talking about their feelings isn't the problem, how they deal with their feelings is. As a whole, men are told from day one that sensitivity is bad and that anger is the only acceptable way they're allowed to showcase displeasure. That certainly is the catalyst, but there's more to it. Men always claim that they're held responsible for everything wrong in the world, but when you look at it, men jump at the first opportunity to point fingers at someone else for random problem X. Boy becomes a violent criminal? Blame his single mother. Father is a moody and angry? His wife must be such a nightmare. Young men following incel culture? Well this wouldn't have happened if feminism just stopped talking about toxic masculinity, even though most of these fuckers don't even understand what we mean when we say toxic masculinity. I've talked to death about toxic masculinity so I won't do it again here, but it really is to blame for this issue. It's not that men are bottling up their emotions, they're just replacing any and all sensitivity with rage. They can blame feminism all they want, but it won't help them. 

And don't even try coming at me with that bollocks about depression is only taken seriously when it comes to women, because that's not true and you know it. Women's mental health has repeatedly been used to justify why women should never be taken seriously and how we're "too emotional to handle anything" when in reality, we're not anymore emotional than the average person should be. Patriarchy treats women as the opposite end of the spectrum, the "extreme" if you will. It tells men that you should never be vulnerable or else you're as bad as a woman, and no matter how "woke" you think you are, you still possess a subconscious bias not be "that kind of woman". Even women fall into this trap to avoid being dismissed as crazy or anything. 

So what can be done about it? First and foremost, deconstruct gender roles. Listen to what feminists say about toxic masculinity and what it means instead of knee jerking to think it means all men are toxic. Second would be to end the false causes. Women being "slutty" or wanting reproductive rights isn't what's causing male suicide or depression, capitalism and patriarchy are. Third, teach men how to properly manage their emotions. For instance, anger is ok, lashing out at innocent people is not. And finally, show men proper outlets for their emotions. This means not using your girlfriends as your emotional baggage btw. Toxic masculinity coupled with the the irrational fear of femininity is what ultimately creates a dangerous environment not just for women but men as well. No one's demanding men become women when we say it's ok for them to be sensitive. It's time to correctly allow men to explore an emotional spectrum, one that benefits them in ways that actually work instead of boiling everything down to "talking about their feelings". 

If I Were President

Every once in a while, someone messages me and says "Hey Kristal I wish you ran for president cuz I'd totally vote for you". Pfft, like they'd ever let my arse anywhere near the White House. It's just not gonna happen mate. But that would be interesting though, so I'll dedicate this blog post to show you all what it'd be like if I were president. 

Firstly, I'd wanna have a nice little chat with you gun enthusiasts out there, you 2nd Amendment fanboys. I swear to fuck, you're the brattiest fucking toerags in the multiverse, you're practically unrivaled. All you do is flip shit everyday because the government wants you to surrender a little bit of your collection. NONE OF YOU have any reason to own an assault weapon. Your only reason to own one boils down to some unnatural fetish you have for military-grade guns that aren't even necessary for basic protection needs. Every last one of you have been safeguarded at the expense of others, and now you're throwing a fit because we're asking you to give away only a small portion of your unnecessary armoury? What is wrong with you bloodthirsty fuckwits? I'm so irritated by you. 

It's one of the most frustrating things ever to hear gun nuts in this country throw tantrums. "Oh woe is me. The government wants me to surrender my AR-15s. I'll go from owning 10 guns to 9. Whatever shall I do?" You're a bunch of fucking entitled pricks. You're gonna be fine. You're still strapped to the teeth with guns. How much is enough for you violent fucks? At what point do you say to yourself "You know, I have enough guns to protect my home as necessary. Maybe I'll chill out on my obsession with owning guns instead of buying enough to supply a strike force". But you never think that. You're too busy inventing scenarios in your head where you'll be disarmed and carted off to your death because something something Nazis were pro-gun control. Almost every single shooting that has been carried out in America since the Aurora theatre shooting was done so by use of an AR-15 and similar weapons. And the moment any politician proposed regulating gun ownership, you bloodthirsty bell-ends cried all the way to the doorstep of the NRA so they can lobby to let you keep guns that you realistically don't even fucking need whilst mothers grieved the deaths of their teenage children. To me, that's just plain evil. 

I've had it up to here with you entitled pendejos, so my first order of business is to prohibit the sale of assault weapons without a legitimate excuse. You wanting to own a weapon capable of mowing down a crowd of 50 people in minutes out of your sci-fi fantasies is not amongst these excuses. You gun owners claim that the only way to stop a bad guy with a gun is a good guy with a gun. Well in America, we have a gun violence incidents every bloody week. Where the fuck are these good guys with guns? It's infuriating, for real. The good guy with a gun narrative doesn't exist. Even those brave souls who do genuinely return fire at mass shooters as the carnage is happening are the exceptions, not the norm. Gun culture gives me a fucking headache. These gun nuts don't care about you, not in the abstract. Now gun ownership is not without its merits. It can provide security to those who feel they can't protect themselves otherwise. With all that firepower you gun nuts have stashed away, you could arm women, black people, trans people, anyone who's a prime target for hate crimes and help them live to see another day. Do you really think safety is achieved by keeping these weapons of war tucked in your closet or wherever all your life, only to come out when you wanna shoot empty beer cans? Of fucking course not, you know no one is safer this way. But you don't really care do you? You're only in it for yourselves. And don't get me started on the racism aspect because you know for a fact that if it were a black woman being shot dead by police for merely exercising her second amendment rights, ustedes would be more silent than a library after the apocalypse. 

I'm tired of fragile white men with zero personality outside of owning guns pretending shooting people is a core value of America. I couldn't care less about your sponsorships or any NRA stickers, I'm not gonna bow to you because I don't care if I get re-elected. I'll spend my 4 years in office doing the public a service and putting you selfish gun nuts in your fucking place for letting the public be in danger. Just try whining about the assault rifle prohibition gun nuts, see where that gets you. My next step will be to put you in jail for owning one. Don't test me. 

My second plan, and I mean like immediately after, would be reforming women's self-defence in this country. We demand women take full responsibility for their own safety when police action is not possible and then we punish them for using it? What the hell kinda backwards thinking is that? It's insane the logic we use here. Abusers killing their wives? Getting slaps on the wrists and often times escaping jail altogether. White supremacists who kill minorities? Escaping justice. Cops who kill unarmed civilians? Pretty much getting pats on the back the whole way. I don't get this society. By doing this, we only discourage anyone from taking measures to protect themselves since it's obvious they'll be treated like the bad guy for not letting themselves fucking die. So I would give a full presidential pardon to any woman who's been imprisoned for killing an abuser or any other attacker who made her fear for her life. I don't care how long you were sentenced, if you're in there for killing in self-defence, you're going the fuck home and I fully apologise that you were even there in the first place. 

This system is so fucking broken. Self-defence is an imperative method for survival. And instead of condoning and encouraging it, we let the predators and the evil ones feel safer and get away with harming the innocent. All we do by punishing those who were protecting themselves leads to is more innocent people dying. Haven't you people found it odd that you're getting fucked over? 

So I'm gonna be clearing the prisons of all the women who are in there for justifiable homicides, and then I'm gonna fill them back up with the slimeballs who should actually be in there. That's right, I'm talking about rapists. Rapists are literally living among you. These obviously predatory people are silently preying on civilians everyday, and only 2% of them ever see a day behind bars. What the holy hell people? You see what happens when you never make people face the consequences for their actions? The threat they pose continues and sometimes gets stronger. You have to give these people what they deserve. You need to show these gross pieces of shit to everyone and expose them for the scum that they are. Which is why I'll propose a new crackdown by giving civilians reasonable authority to deal with rapists by the means at hand. We'll clean up the streets of these bastards one day at a time and no longer take their deeds lying down. I'd do what no other president in history has ever done, and that is make rapists face consequences. It's a disgrace how no president has ever had the stones to do this. It really shows you where their interests lie doesn't it?

And also, I just have to ask: what the everlasting hell is wrong with the public? You all do realise that your own lives are in danger by letting these rapists run around without consequences right? They're endangering the lives of everyone around you right under your noses and you don't even care? You disappoint me and need to get your priorities in check. 

My next target is the church. By some accounts, the church takes in 170 billion USD in revenue annually. That's absolutely batshit insane. What the hell do churches need all that money for? It's not like they're using it for anything. And isn't it a sin to horde wealth? Sounds like they're not even taking their own advice. My proposition for this is to tax churches by 30%. That may seem like a lot, but even by then the church would still be much richer than they need to be. If they cannot survive by living on just enough for them to be set forever, then maybe the entire institution needs to be supplanted. 

And once we've taken care of taxing churches, reforming women's self-defence, and prohibiting assault rifles, we can focus on other matters, like immigration. There can be no freedom where humans are illegal. Name me one genuinely rock solid reason why immigration is a huge problem that doesn't boil down to a subconscious prejudice against brown people. Chances are, you won't find one. That's why I'd draft legislation to start open borders in this country. No more immigration police, no more 90 day visas, fuck them. Immigration should not be as complicated as America has made it to be. If you're coming here for a new life, nothing should stand in your way. I'll even strengthen citizenship processes to ensure immigrants who choose to live here permanently can be American citizens faster than before. No one should have to wait 3 to 5 years to finally be considered a member of this society. For real, if it's been more than like 6 months, chances are they're not going anywhere. 

And speaking of things that should be available and easy, so should housing. It's genuinely confusing as to how much every administration has dragged its feet in the mud in solving the homelessness problem in this country. We have a homeless population of 554,000 and tripled that amount in available houses. What the hell are we waiting for? No one should have to fight over finding a house. This country has all the resources to ensure homelessness and poverty never exist and we just let it go to waste so billionaire scumbags can line their own pockets with it. Not on my watch. And so with all the money we get and save by taxing churches, I'll start socialised public housing for everyone in this country, all fully maintained and insured so you never have to worry about losing everything in the event something goes wrong. We can help abused women and children, college students, and the homeless find shelter without having to wait in line. Now if you still want to buy these huge houses and pay thousands in mortgage, go right ahead, doesn't matter to me. But if you can't afford that and need a place to live due to certain circumstances, the government will help you as necessary. We will set up all sorts of housing choices, apartments or houses, whichever you want at the price that's right for you. Housing should be a right for every person. I'll make sure you get it. 

I'm Madame President Kristal Colt and I love every single one of you little bastards. I'm honoured to bring this country to greatness, and liberty and justice for all (except Fortnite gamers).