I apologise for my unexpected hiatus, I've been preoccupied with my job and stuff.
Anyway, in my absence, I pondered the topic of my next blog post since I realised I had less material than a biodegradable tupperware bin. Then it hit me; why not do one on natural bodies?
So for anyone who doesn't know, which I don't expect you to know since I never told you up to this point, I also do some modeling on the side. And since I have curves, I believe I take part in the #effyourbeautystandards trend that's following the internet. One thing I feel must be gotten across is the idea of a natural body, and what one looks like. Our perception of women and men is often warped by the media's standards of what a perfect person is, or at least a perfect looking person. I wanna help shatter a few of those things. Also I'm gonna focus mainly on women since we experience this firsthand, but I recommend the dudes stick around and try and pick something up from this. It could help you a lot.
The media has brainwashed us into thinking that women should all be these one-note creatures. We all have size 2 dresses, long blonde hair, dashing hazel eyes, and always have a seductive look on our face. They also want to tell you that women are infantile. Most model shootouts involve us sucking on lollipops or playing with stuffed toys. I mean sure, we women can act like adolescents quite a lot but I think that's a bit of a stretch don't ya think? Because of these unrealistic standards, men now develop "trust issues" and look for a woman that fits exactly what a Victoria's Secret magazine convinces them what we look like. They tell us to watch out for stretch marks, watch our weight, and never have any cellulite because that's "imperfect".
The truth is boys, pretty much every woman you'll meet has those. Hell, I have butt cellulite. There's stretch marks on my breasts and shoulders. Am I a freak for that? No. It's my own body, and I have no reason to think that I'm not natural. Girls on average never escape voluptuity. At age 11, we hit puberty and our thighs widen. We begin storing fat in our respective areas. Our bums and breasts grow. Women generally gain weight more than men due to our biological structure and to help us carry a baby. We acquire these tiny imperfections that make us all the cuter :). Here's a pic of Denise Bidot that encapsulates the point and drives it home and tucks it to bed:
I'm sure you've seen this one before. She is posing with the average mannequin. Now for the truth bomb: Denise is an average sized woman. Her dress size is 18, her measurements are 42-32-45, and her weight is 205 lbs. She is also 5'11", taller than the average woman, so she proves that not all tall girls are lean. But beyond all that, Denise is absolutely gorgeous, and she understands that. A while ago, plus size fellow Brit Iskra Lawrence stripped down on a NYC subway train to pep people into the thought that how we look should be appreciated at all times. Denise and Iskra both warn us about how the media is out to get us, destroy us for being comfortable in our own skin.
Here's another complaint of mine. It's the use of girl and woman. Let me set the record straight here, a girl is a female human under the legal age of adulthood and a woman is an adult human female. Get it? Got it? Good, because the media seems to not get that. According to most men, attractive females are called girls. And by attractive I mean the magazine's manipulations of what an attractive female looks like. But when they see overweight or unidealistic females, they're called women. Apparently girls are attractive and women are ugly. Does this apply to boys and men? Oh of course not, males are always attractive and perfect, can't you tell?
Speaking of which, men may not realise this, but they also should be comfortable in their own skin. They don't have to be these hairless bodybuilders with picky suave haircuts and rustic beards. No, if you're a broad chested slim and hairless guy, be happy with yourself. Unfortunately, it's easier for you than it is for us. Men are usually told to be successful through their talents and not their looks, i.e., having a personality. Women are constantly reduced to their physical appearance, and it prevents them from being taken seriously or recognised for their personality. Honestly, if Megyn Kelly wasn't beautiful, I sincerely doubt conservatives would even host her. I can't say the same about Trump because he's no sight for sore eyes yet people seem to respect him enough to fucking vote for him despite having zero experience (yes I'm still salty about that).
Also I'd be pretty negligent to not mention the lack of attractive black figures. Haven't you found it odd that a lot of these mainstream models are white? Ethnic diversity is important in eliminating unrealistic standards because limiting sexuality and attractiveness to white people only is just a flagrant example of racism. And no, saying deez black hoes got them phat asses doesn't count as finding non-white women attractive, that just makes you sound like a perverted dickhead. People like Isaiah Mustafa and Naomi Campbell (despite the fact that she's a bloody psychopath) have helped to showcase people of colour's abilities to become fashion figures and idols of what can be considered physically attractive.
There's no right or wrong way to be a woman. And there's certainly no right or wrong body type. If you feel happy being skinny or fat, all power to you. Who knows, you may end up looking like what you consider unattractive. Whether or not you decide to stop placing boundaries on beauty standards because of this will be up to you.
