When Women Grope Women "As A Joke"

Say it ain't so, a feminist actually criticising something women do? Well ok, it's not unheard of from me, I did after all lambast The Red Pill, which was directed by a woman. See I'm not ready to go on about how "females nowadays" are spoilt c*nts who think they can get away with anything they want, because I'll send anyone who says that all the way over to India, where your father can pay your arse off to marry a man who you won't meet until the engagement party. I'll send them back to before the 1920s when women couldn't vote. But one thing I've noticed is unique to this generation of women is that they think that sexual violence doesn't apply to them. They think that there's a loophole in sexual assault where if a woman gropes another woman, then it's fine cuz it's all in good fun. And I've noticed that it's slipped under many people's radars. Of course you have MRAs saying that lesbians are just the epicentre of abuse and rape, but they don't actually know or care what they're talking about. So how about a perspective from a half-lesbian ;D. 

Let's answer the initial question. Can women be sexual predators? Yes of course they can. I myself in fact get groped by females quite a lot myself. Of course, men do it more to me, but there are some ladies that tried getting a piece of my pie. Chances are, you're a woman who's been groped by another woman at some point. Naturally, we don't necessarily see this as serious as if a man were to do it to us, which is understandable. After all, the stats do say that men are much more of a threat to us than our own sisterhood. But let's disregard all that for a moment. The reality is, she touched you without your permission. But how did you react? You likely stayed silent, which is fine, there's no correct way to respond to being sexually violated. But if you went to call her out on what she did, she'd probably either play the woman card (which honestly is very unlikely) or she'll say "it's just a joke". But is it really though? Why is that a woman can grab another woman inappropriately and it's funny when that's not the case if a man grabs a woman inappropriately? Well, it's because we've been socialised that way. However if a woman was raped by another woman, she certainly wouldn't be in on the humour.

The main gist of what I wanna talk about is when straight women who are friends with each other grab each other's breasts and bums. Now, I can confirm that this happens, in fact it does in my circle of female friends too. This can be boiled down to some inherent trust amongst women. We're much safer around other women than we are around men, and as such we probably take advantage of this more than we should. Sometimes the playful butt-touches will become a hand straight in your crack because you happened to bend over in front of her. And yes, I've had that happen to me. But to be clear, it's ok if you, a straight woman, touch your female friend's butt. Just as long as it's, say it with me now, C O N S E N S U A L. Even if the consent is "implied", if at any point she's becoming visibly uncomfortable, or tells you to stop and you keep going, congratulations, you've committed sexual assault. You aren't joking around, you're hurting her. It doesn't automatically become "ok" if you're both straight women. Not to mention it just looks bad for women everywhere because when they go to report any assaults that they were involved in, people are just gonna be like "oh yeah? Well women grab each other all the time and no one cares". And I'm sure we can all agree how fucking annoying that is. Remember when Melanie Martinez was outed for raping a woman? I can't count the times on my hand that I saw someone say "women can't rape women".

To conclude this post, this idea that women can freely grope women as they please without an ounce of consent is just wrong. I can sort of understand if it's some kind of reclamation of our sexuality, but if becomes a regular habit and you start doing it to women you've never met before, then you're a predator, plain and simple. Just be chill. Women don't exist to be grabbed, and if there's anyone who should understand that better than anyone else, it's women. 

Stop Comparing Anita Sarkeesian To Jack Thompson

Ah, GamerGate. Easily the hottest topic in all of contemporary feminism. So why am I coming to it when the movement has essentially subsided? Well, because it's making a comeback, and boy is it not pretty. Truth is, though, I can't call it a comeback because it never really went away. We just stopped talking about it. Bad idea. Very bad idea. Nothing's changed with them. They're still racist, sexist, and desperately trying to convince us that they're just a noble movement aiming for fair and balanced journalism. I would talk about their recent resurgence regarding NBC supposedly calling all gamers racist neo-Nazis, but honestly I don't know all about it and it isn't really relevant to my blog. Instead I'm gonna talk about one of their more famous and favourite flagship points, that being their comparison of Anita Sarkeesian to Jack Thompson. The argument cropped up a few years ago, but I'm gonna talk about it anyway because people still bring it up as if it's a valid thing to say. 

Before I debunk the comparison, I'm gonna give a rundown of GamerGate's version of the ordeal. This analogy came from none other than Christopher Maldonado, better known by his YouTube name Chris Ray Gun. He described Jack Thompson and Anita's history fairly accurately with a few exceptions, which I'll get to. Jack Thompson is a former DA who in 2009 claimed that video games cause real world violence. As you might've predicted, this was not taken well, and was debunked almost right away. He was constantly harassed, received death threats and eventually lost his job because of his stance on gaming. He is still universally hated today. A couple years later, Anita comes into the fray and states that video games cause real world sexism. Same thing happens, people attack her for what she said about video games. She was even doxxed and had to leave her home. However, despite her huge ongoing hatred from GGers, she was defended by the gaming journalism media and was considered a sort of heroine for not backing down against her haters. Now according to GamerGate, they think that Anita got a free pass because she's a woman and of course pulled the misandry card. 

Here's the actual truth. Jack Thompson did in fact receive notable flak for his stance on video games, but he was not disbarred from the Florida bar for it. He was disbarred because he was corrupt and even framed a political opponent for possessing child pornography. In that scenario, it's kinda impossible to defend him. Anita on the other hand never claimed that video games caused sexism. She said that sexist elements in video games reflected reality, that's about it. She never even wanted to take legal action against video games, just for the industry to improve. Plus, Anita used the leftover money from her GoFundMe to buy a new home and register Feminist Frequency as a C3 charity organisation. What has Jack Thompson been up to? Framing guys for kiddy porn. Yeeeaaaaah, starting to look pretty dumb now ain't ya? Gender had nothing to with it. Anita's just a more likable person, plain and simple. 

I'm sure plenty of people are gonna come at me with their what-about-isms and claiming that Anita really is the devil's favourite demon and I just don't see it, but fact is, GamerGate's always had it wrong (no surprise there). The double standard exists because it's not a double standard. It's just that it's easier to defend an innocent woman than a fucked up individual willing to slander anyone he dislikes with a massive claim like child porn possession (btw good on the MRAs for ignoring the fact that this counts as a false accusation, but I guess it's only bad when women make them :/). Hopefully now I'll actually have drilled through some thick skulls.