Has Motherhood Lost Its Way?

Everyone loves their mummy (to the Americans in my audience, I'm saying mommy), no matter how old we are, no matter how tough we are. Mothers just have that love that is unmatched. I love my mum very much, she has inspired me to do many things, and that pursuing your dream is for sure worth it. But one frighteningly disturbing thing I'm seeing is many stories and videos of mothers dissenting into villainy. Beating their children, killing them sometimes, and many misogynists are using this as an opportunity to diminish the role of motherhood in family life and exonerate fathers as pretty much gods. This could lead to the reversion of a 1950's nuclear family, but worse.

Now to be clear, I'm not against fathers. I know and love my father all the same. But I refuse to make acceptable the idea that mothers are always powerless. Now of course a married couple is much more fit to raise children. One is the loneliest number you'll ever do, but two is also the loneliest number since one. Music references aside, a married couple isn't always an ideal one now is it? If it was, domestic abuse wouldn't be a thing. And single motherhood is pretty much looked at like it's the worst thing ever. Single mothers are constantly bedeviled for raising a child or two on their own, even if she's doing a fine job at it. Single fathers on the other hand, are praised and respected for their bravery. But why though? Patriarchy. Of fucking course it's patriarchy. 

Single mothers are pretty much hard evidence a wage gap exists. Women get lower wages and thereby live in working class areas, giving the impression that they're not fit to parent. But that's just money. Finances don't dictate a child friendly environment, seeing as most abusive parents turn out to be desert driller rich. 

What's the answer to how single mothers should be able to raise kids to be well groomed adults? According to Jeb Bush, they just need to "get married". In essence, the same type of bullshit that MGTOWers think like is endorsed by a Senator of the Republican party in the United States Government. Go figure. 

Now that I live in America, I want to make sure that when the time comes that I'll be a parent, my parenting skills won't have to be attributed to my marital status. Not just for me, but for any woman who is no longer married because of whatever the circumstance. Single mothers can be just as useful as married mothers. 

Back to abusive parents, there's this idea floating around that states the majority of child abusers are women. Except, NOPE. Around 64% of abusive parents are fathers, and 27% are mothers. Granted the number of abusive mothers is still high, but that still doesn't change the fact that them being the majority is a lie. Let's educate ourselves a bit. 

First thing, feminists dedicate a lot of their time to rehabilitating mothers who've fallen from grace. One of our main goals is restore motherhood to the pinnacle of which it can be. How many MRAs have spent time going after abusive fathers? None that I've seen. Paul Elam? Nope. Roosh V? Not happening. Stefan Molyneux? In your dreams. They're all too busy trying to make rape legal, or at least convince men that women always want it. These men's groups cry day in and day out about divorces being biased towards women, which I'll get to, yet never once do anything about it. That would of course mean being an actual activist. Another thing that goes unaccounted for is inequalities that exist with parenting methods. A father who spanks his children is usually seen as just a normal parent dishing out an effective discipline method. A mother spanking her children is seen as a child beating monster who should have her parenting licence revoked. Essentially, strict parenting is ok for dads but terrible for mums. This is mostly down to stereotypes that dictate that a man is allowed to use force because he's big and strong and macho and what not. A woman must be delicate and all sunshine and flowers. A record also states that most mothers who abuse their children are often abused by their husbands as well, so the torment just carries on from one recipient to the next. 

Guess what men? It all comes back to you. 

Next I wanna tell you about parental rights. Men's groups would like to have you believe that fathers are just in eternal damnation because of them gosh darn custody laws being "unfavourable". This is not true at all. But first, is it fair that a man who ditches the mother of his child is lauded by his peers for "dodging a bullet" but a woman who gets an abortion is deemed a murderer? Irrelevant your opinion on abortion, ditching your "baby mama" is never a good thing to do. It shows you never cared about the woman you slept with and instead just want to score with as many women your ego demands you to. Men who abandon their families deserve to pay the child support they apparently become slaves to. And if you refuse to pay or try to make it look like you're the victim, you're a fucking coward. There are legitimate reasons for abortion, like a rape baby. There is no excuse for just up and leaving a woman who's pregnant with your child. Now, custody laws may LOOK like they favour mums, when in reality it's just an illusion. Mums are more likely to win child custody due to the amount of time they spend with the kids. However, this is mainly down to the fact that men often don't want to have custody and instead prefer to sign away their parental rights. 50% of men who actually fight to gain custody will receive it. And this also accounts for men who have good lawyers and aren't really fit to parent but still have an arsewagon of cash to burn. In other words, it's still up a man's word either way. 

So has motherhood become toxic, destructive, and a shell of what it used to be? Not quite. Our young women are being told all the time that they're not that important, and their lives belong to their husbands upon cutting the cake. By coming together and telling young women the importance of motherhood, we can end negative stigma around single mothers and create a safer environment for mothers of any kind.